Golden Calf of a Homeschooling Mom

FullSizeRender (30)By wisdom a house is built, 
and by understanding it is established; by knowledge the rooms are filled with all precious and pleasant riches. Proverbs 24:3-4

 Through skillful and godly Wisdom is a house (a life, a home, a family) built, and by understanding it is established (on a sound and good foundation). And by knowledge shall its chambers (of every area) be filled with all precious and pleasant riches. Proverbs 24:3-4 (AMP):

Being a bona fide homeschooling mom , I looked up the words precious and pleasant:

PRECIOUS (adj.) 1. of high price or great value; very valuable or costly 2. highly esteemed for some spiritual, nonmaterial, or moral quality 3. dear; beloved: 4.excessively delicate, refined, or nice

 PLEASANT (adj.)1. pleasing, agreeable, or enjoyable; giving pleasure  2. (of persons, manners, disposition, etc.) socially acceptable or adept; polite; amiable; agreeable.

Is this what fills the rooms of my home?

The words speak of a literal house – a dwelling place for a family or an individual, but also my heart house. To build a home could mean a new house from scratch. But it may also refer to repairing or restoring an old house and improving it. And who doesn’t love a great Fixer Upper? I pray my words today will encourage and implore you, (no matter how you are choosing to educate your children) to do a little remodel where needed. Some of you may only need to paint & spackle, while others may need a bulldozer. Let God’s word bring you to the right and proper understanding.

What is wisdom?  It does not mean to be wise or smart or even educated.  The only way to Biblical wisdom is to give our lives to Jesus Christ and then follow Him completely.  Jesus is our wisdom.

Psalm 86 says, “Teach me your way, O Lord, and I will walk in your truth; give me an undivided heart, that I may fear your name. I will praise you, O Lord my God, with all my heart; I will glorify your name forever.”

Now, I’m going to let you in on a little secret…I am a flawed mom! I’ve been one for almost 35 years. I’d love for you to only see my children’s good achievements and keep any of the “defects” private. My attempts to raise my kids to be and act a certain way have actually work against God’s grace and were gravely misguided. They are so easily persuaded by the fear of man’s judgment or worse yet, momma’s displeasure!. I become so focused in trying to make them look acceptable to God, for the world’s sake. And unfortunately, maybe more so with my fellow homeschool moms!

I feel behind and useless when the day was spent talking to one of the kids about their behavior or how they are treating one another, rather than on science projects. Latin and diagraming that extra bonus sentence take priority over ‘gospeling’ an attitude or disappointment. I second-guess my curriculum choices and wonder if I’m doing enough. Am I behind the public school kids or ahead of them? (Am I really comparing? AGAIN?) Almost every day I’m tempted to compare how I feel on the inside to how other moms look on the outside

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I must sign them up for sports. I must clean my house. I must cook healthy dinners. I must educate brilliant scholars! Oh my, what will the tutors think next Monday? My standard of what I MUST be and do is unrealistic and much more flawed than I am. Isaiah 46: 1 really brought some perspective to my view of Wisdom vs. Education. It says:

Bel bows down, Nebo stoops low; their idols are borne by beasts of burden. The images that are carried about are burdensome, a burden for the weary.”

Nebo, who if you didn’t know, was the god of wisdom, writing and revelation, some call him the god of learning. This was the god that burdened the Babylonians!

Don’t get me wrong: education is important. None of us would disagree with that. But how important is it, and what role does it play when we are trying to build our homes on Wisdom, Understanding and Knowledge? I must always remember my children’s character growth and commitment to the Lord is more important than any grade, yet, which gets more attention in my home? I will admit at times I have had the appearance (and especially to my children) to value academics over character growth during a hectic school week. Am I making a god out of learning? Are you?

2 Peter 1:5 “Giving all diligence, add to your faith virtue; and to virtue knowledge.”  Let’s maintain the right priority!! My house will get dirty and I actually seldom cook a well balance meal. 
They may not get recruited by the NBA and my kids won’t always behave. They may be 2 grade levels behind in reading! Spell 60 words wrong! They may grow up and get a tattoo, hang with the wrong friends, drop out of college! So today I should care about them growing closer to God.

IMG_6229If I want to give my children a hunger for His Word and ignite in them a passion to chase after Him. I must make that the top priority in my home and in my own life. It must be what I model first and foremost! My call is to be to be an effective communicator for Christ, not so that my kids can stand in awe of me, but so that they can stand in awe of the One I speak about—Jesus. I’m called to make disciples, so the four children under my care for now are my greatest prospects. Luke 2:52, “And Jesus grew in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and man.” I should want nothing less than for mine to do the same. (And I hope you don’t hear me say, “make them memorize more scripture!”)

This world is chaotic, it is a fallen world, but God calls us to a higher standard. Our homes can be built on solid firm foundations, filled with Christ. Operating in the flow of God’s power, living in His abundant grace, overflowing with PRECIOUS and PLEASANT riches. It is OK to be broken mamas and recognize that you need the Lord’s help.

My prayer: Lord richly bless me as I seek to homeschool my children (or in any area of training) for Your glory! I want my kids to know You first and foremost. Help me to keep my priorities in perspective and to not put too much stress on academics. Help me to find the balance between “doing everything as unto You” (including learning) and inspiring my children to follow hard after You. Let my home be built on Your Wisdom, in Knowledge and Understanding. For His glorious fame, Amen

This post is modified from a devotional I wrote in 2010 while my children were in a private Christian school.

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