“So that you may be sons of your Father who is in heaven. For he makes his sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust. ” Matthew 5:45
For part of my elementary years my daddy was my principal. The majority of his students and parents loved him, and he had a genuine love and interest in them. It was a privilege to come to his office to read or be complimented on a job well done. Everyone loved when he came to the playground and kicked the ball around. When he walked through the cafeteria, the students loved to have him stop and talk at their table. He had those troubled students who avoided interaction, but he was still kind to them, always offering encouragement. His students and I shared the common graces of a great principal. However, I was his daughter. I enjoyed these same benefits of a devoted and caring principal as the other kids. BUT, I was his daughter; I was the only one who could walk into his office without permission. I could riffle through his desk for candy; I could sit and spin in his chair. And because I was his daughter, I was able to hug his neck, eat dinner at his table in his home and be tucked into bed at night by him. His love for me was different than his love towards his other students. I was his.
There was also a higher expectation because I was his daughter. He expected me to follow ALL the rules of the school. He expected me to choose kindness to ALL my classmates. I waited in line with the other students, and my library books needed to be returned on time. Because I was his daughter, he required more of me; the best choices were the ones that brought him the most pleasure. My actions could make him look good or reflect poorly of his parenting. Once I was invited to the party of a classmates and I wasn’t allowed to go. There were many tears of anguish because “everyone else was going!” (A fact I found out on the Monday following was not true) When I wasn’t allowed to go to a party, it wasn’t because he was withholding from me, he had insight to the perils of this family that I was not aware of. His concern for me as his child was great, because he wanted the best for me. His love for me never wavered.
This is a glimpse of what it is like to have a perfect heavenly father. As His children, He calls us to so much more. C. H Spurgeon says that as His children we should “Rise out of ordinary manhood. Get beyond what others might expect of you. Have a high standard. “Be ye, therefore, perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect.” Of course we are not perfect. But we can live differently than the world. We have the privilege to obey his loving instructions. We enjoy the common graces that He gives to all His creation, and so much more as His chosen children.
However, we should never mistake His common grace for His provision. “For it is God who works in you, both to will and to work for his good pleasure…so that you may become blameless and pure, “children of God without fault in a warped and crooked generation.” Then you will shine among them like stars in the sky.”(Philippians 2:13, 15) Christians today are so worried about being legalistic that we are missing out on some of the protection of His laws and precepts, especially when it comes to our calling as women. I cannot help but weep as I see this world stealing true joys and the missional calling God has for me, my daughters, granddaughters and other Christian women. We have begun to mix up common grace while searching for God’s best in their lives.
A job may open up that seems perfectly suited to you, but calls you away from home and family (Proverbs 16:3, Titus 2:5) As a woman you may be a natural leader and your husband is more than satisfied to let you. (Genesis 2:18, Ephesian5:22-24) Great novels by gifted authors give you some rest and relaxation, yet you spend little or no time in His word. (1 Peter 1:23, Ephesians 5:26) The mission of feeding the poor requires our children to fend for themselves more than enjoying a meal as a family. Wanting to give our children an educational advantage, or allow their talents to thrive, become hectic and costly endeavors that cost our children’s souls. (Deuteronomy 6:6-8, Psalms 78:5) Being a wife and mom is second to following your dreams or “at least have a back up plan”. (Luke 1:38) Maybe we won’t have children. (Genesis 1:27-28) There is grace in divorce, and we no longer fight for our marriage, we know “He forgives”. (Mark 10:3-5) Elections will end in God’s sovereign will, and we vote for what seems popular. (1 Samuel 8) Wholesome TV shows just don’t exist, so we justify “that” language or “this lifestyle” contrary to a Holy God, because “it’s just a show”…and we become desensitized to Holy living! (1 Peter 2:9, Philippians 4:8) The subtleties go on and on and without much fanfare, we start justifying everything in our lives. (Proverbs 16:1-2)
My dear sisters in Christ! You’ve been listening to this world too long, telling you to find yourself, express yourself, and assert yourself. You’ll be nobody but someone’s wife or mom if you buy into “all” the bible.. This is a lie! There is a great and beautiful privilege of being the daughter of the King. He has called you as obedient children to not be conformed to this world and live Holy.(1 Peter 1;13-15) What does that look like for you?
“But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for His own possession, that you may proclaim the excellencies of Him who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light. ” 1 Peter 2:9